Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: What up? Welcome back to the Bad podcast. I actually hit record on accident almost too fast. It was chit chatting, man. But we're back that podcast, Brad and Dwayne. And here with my brother Brad. Brad, what are we talking about today? My friend?
[00:00:12] Speaker B: Caught me off guard there.
[00:00:14] Speaker A: I know.
Wait a minute.
[00:00:18] Speaker B: Some, some people almost got some backstage free passes there.
[00:00:23] Speaker A: Hey, well we might need to do that, man. Bad backstage, man. You know you gotta subscribe to the YouTube subscription, man. That month is.
[00:00:33] Speaker B: I like it. Yeah, I like it. Hey man, we're going to talk about boberry biscuits today and, and we're going to talk about purpose and meaning. Yeah, and honey buns glazed. I got, I got page 56 out of the prep rep repeat book. And here we go. Mile markers and milestones. Things that we've talked about before. When setting a goal for yourself, it's essential to make that goal as grand and then as bit and as ambitious as you can mentally and physically.
When you establish a larger than life expectation, it not only motivates you, but also helps you achieve several smaller objectives along the way. Thereby fostering a sense of self instilled confidence. And as you prepare to pursue the big picture goal, you'll encounter various mile markers. Evidence along your journey that demonstrates that success is not only possible, but, but fully within your reach.
[00:01:25] Speaker A: Let's get it.
Are you ready?
[00:01:30] Speaker B: Are you ready?
[00:01:46] Speaker A: What it look like? What it be like? What it do? Back in here, another bad episode. Brad and Dwayne and man, you guys can't see whenever the video goes up. I looked up and Brad was gone. And then I. It came back. He was back like the dude is flash. I'm, I'm. I'm sure of it now.
[00:02:03] Speaker B: It's all the treadmill glasses.
[00:02:05] Speaker A: Yeah, man. Yeah, all that. All the treadmill, all the running man. So hey, this episode is brought to you by E2M Kitchen. Man. Make sure you go to e2mkitchen.com pick you up a box. It's Monday.
Monday. What's the date on Monday?
Look, what's today's date?
[00:02:21] Speaker B: 31St.
[00:02:22] Speaker A: 31St. Okay. Monday the 31st. So if you're listening to this before. Yeah, I actually, I think you can still get the 24 count for half price.
I don't remember the code, but I'll definitely drop it in before we leave. I think it's like/50.50. Yeah, if you use code slash50 you can get a 21 count box with E2M kitchen, which is, I mean 50 off. Unheard of, you know. So take advantage of that. Check them out. E2M Fitness dot com. All right, Brad, man, let's. Let's start to dive into this.
You know, we all. I. I really. I ain't gonna hold you, man. Like, our last couple of episodes, to me, have been bangers. Like, we've been. We've been. We've been putting in some work these last couple episodes, and, you know, I'm gonna say be on the lookout for the. The joint ebook with me and Brad, taking all our notes from the show and coming out with this motivational joint ebook that we're gonna get out to everybody, man. So be on the lookout for that.
[00:03:23] Speaker B: I. I like the sounds of this ebook. Let's. Let's. Let's get it done.
No, I. I agree, Dwayne. And I've had a lot of people reach out to me over the last handful of weeks just say, hey, whoa, that was a. An episode. That was just an episode. And I actually got yelled at by a few people last week because I didn't read one of my quotes. I read something else.
What I read today. I had to, like, catch my breath there. That's why I went off the screen. I had to catch my breath.
[00:03:51] Speaker A: Wow, that's cool, man. But, yeah, definitely shout out to everybody showing love, you know, even. Even our co workers. I was in a meeting yesterday, and Christina said she's gonna call me Honey Bun. I was like, oh, you talking podcast. I got it. Podcast. Yeah.
[00:04:06] Speaker B: You know, people are listening, you know, and. And know. Honey buns aside, today I want to talk about a guy by the name of Victor Frank in an ideology that he came up with called logotherapy. And it's essentially finding meaning and purpose in all that you do, you know, and. And when you're going through life and you're thinking about life, you can find meaning and purpose in a lot of things that you do. But in the industry that we're in, it's very difficult to find meaning and purpose in fitness. Why is that? Because when we're engaging in fitness, there's one of a few reasons. One, we want to lose weight. Two, we want to improve our physique, or three, our doctor or our spouse told us so. And that's really the three reasons that we really get engaged with fitness. And it's hard to find purpose and meaning with fitness. So a couple of things that I like to do, and I mentioned it in that book, and we've talked about this before. Micro wins, right? Those mile markers and micro wins. Those are the things that are going to be evidence. They're going to show you proof. They're going to leave little, little hints that, yes, I can do this, yes I can raise the bar, and yes, I can advance or progress in my life towards the grand vision. You know, I'm a runner, right? There's a reason runners sign up for races. Why is that? They don't. They're not signing up for a race to fall in love with the process. They're not signing up for races to find meaning and purpose in the process. They're trying to get to that darn finish line and they want to get a medal and then go have a cold fresh IPA at the, @ the local watering hole. But to, to find purpose and meaning, I think is one of those, like one of those secrets that the gurus have that a lot of, I would say, normal people don't have. And again, you know, you boil it way down to those micro winds in, in mile markers.
[00:05:55] Speaker A: Yeah, no, I mean, you, you hit it on the head, man. You hear a lot. Like, you know, always. I like to reference Gary V. Because, you know, he super influential in a lot of stuff. And that's, that's one of the things he harp on is like, you know, falling in love with the process, which is not, it's not typical, it's not normal. It's not something that the average person does or thinks about, you know, as far as, you know, their journey, you know, falling in love with the process. But it's almost like you have to, you know, and man, we, we talk about it so much, but I have to, you know, we say that B. But a lot of people are just discovering us, so they don't know that we talk about it. So it's okay to repeat if you've been around long enough to know that we repeat ourselves. We appreciate you as well. But you know, the, the, the sometimes when the end goal is the focus, you know, it when you hit that marker or you, you, you, you land at whatever that end goal is, you know, you, you lose your purpose, you know, fall in love with the process. You, you're more likely to, you know, continue. You're more likely to, you know, you know, find the next, next goal so that you can enter the process again, you know, so that you can, you know, continue to develop and get better. And so, you know, that that's one of those things that it's not comfortable, it's not fun, but there you can find joy in it, you know, and, and you know, I, I think it's a military guys like they, they, they train them how to, you know, almost like endure suffering. Like they, they, especially when they first are like, you know, put them in a place where it's uncomfortable, you don't like it cold, you're sleepy, you know you're wet, you know, all those things. And, and you, they, they kind of you trying to train your mind to not want to escape but just endure. And you know, I mean some even take to extreme of, you know, enjoying it, you know, like a mental flip to enjoy.
[00:07:53] Speaker B: Well, I, I call that, you know, the childhood mentality, right? So there, there was a book that I was reading, it might have been by Jocko Willink, but it was somebody that was talking about, it's a Navy SEAL test out in California. And, and what they do, and I might have mentioned this before in the past, but what they do is they place all these soldiers, trainees that are trying to be Navy SEALs. They put them in, right? And, and they, and they, they have to endure the cold water and the splashes in the face and, and you know, they're there for a long period of time. But I can't remember who it was, but what he was talking about was he got in the water. The, the entire group got in the water at the exact same time. Just a little after, actually. Then a group full of kids down the, down the beach, right? And the group full of kids were in the water just as long as the Navy SEAL trainees. But the kids, the kids were splashing, playing with toys, swimming around, having a good time. And the Navy SEALs, they were in agony and pain and suffering, right? But what is agony and pain and suffering? It's things that we create in our minds. Cold water isn't that bad. We just told ourselves at some point or we had a bad experience at some point in our lives that man, cold water stings. Cold water stings. And I want to tell you something, D now I'm on one, man. What, what happens, what happens when somebody falls out of rhythm with their heartbeat, man? You gotta shock it back into rhythm. And sometimes in life you just gotta shock yourself back into rhythm. You're experiencing some, some sort of stagnant in your life. You're just going around, around and round and around the merry go round in life. Well, shock yourself back into life. And I want to talk about one thing before I pass it up. You mentioned goals, right? And goals are so funny and milestones are so funny and finish lines are so funny because you know, when you sign up for a Race. There are literal finish lines, and once you get to that finish line, it's. It's over and bada bing, bada boom. But when you talk about life's goals, and you talk about, like, overall fitness and wellness goals, once you reach a certain point in your life, that goal right there, that milestone that you thought was, oh, man, I'm there.
Wait a minute. Now it's over there. And then once you get there, wow. It's over there because it's evolution. Your goals, just like you are evolving, you're forever growing. So once you get there, it's going to move, you're going to grow, you're going to get stronger.
[00:10:07] Speaker A: Absolutely, man. Absolutely. No, that's spot on, brother. But that, man, the kid thing, that. Yeah, I don't. I don't think I've heard you talk about that, man. That's. That's. That's pretty. That's wild to think about, you know, just right over there, they're enjoying it. Because I know, you know, when you take the kids to the beach and the water's cold, you're like, man, don't go to the water. They would care.
[00:10:27] Speaker B: Like, no hesitation.
[00:10:29] Speaker A: The ice plunge, they're like, whatever, let's do it, you know?
[00:10:33] Speaker B: Well, this past summer, my son Beckett hopped in the cold, cold plunge right after I did. I'm. I'm in there for two minutes, right?
[00:10:40] Speaker A: I'm.
[00:10:40] Speaker B: I'm suffering. I'm. I'm. You know, I'm. I'm going through it. He was, dad, can I try that? I'm like, you ain't gonna want this. You ain't gonna want none of this. And there he's like, why. Why wouldn't I want. Why wouldn't I want to do this? I'm like, just dip your shoulders and see what you got. He dips in five to 10 minutes later, he's like, what?
[00:11:00] Speaker A: And right.
[00:11:01] Speaker B: It's. Again, it's. It's a mindset, that childhood mentality where, you know, just recently, we were outside. It's 20 degrees outside. My kids don't have hats on. They 1. My little guy doesn't have a jacket on because he stripped that sucker off. He's in a sweatshirt. It's 20 degrees out. I'm freezing. I'm like, guys, it's cold. Let's go inside. It's not that cold, dad. Well, your noses are ready. Icicles off your chin. I'm cold.
[00:11:23] Speaker A: You're cold, right? Man, that's crazy, man. And. And they're. They're. They're content, they're happy. You know, they, they don't. You know, it's just, it's what we've trained ourselves, you know, to, to feel and think, man. It's. It's just crazy to think about. And, you know, if, If, If a child can do that, then, I mean, we can definitely, you know, do that. We can definitely train ourselves to do that.
[00:11:47] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah, that's good, man. This, this society that we live in today is all about comfort and convenience. You know, that's. Dude, Netflix and Chill is literally saying that that sold millions of dollars, if not billions of dollars worth of T shirts and swag. Netflix and Chill. Like we, we are. We are accustomed to chilling and sitting. Sitting with our feet up. You know, we want comfort and convenience. That's why doordash is big. That's why, you know, I, I don't know all the other ones, but comfort and convenience, man, it's a killer. And, and every. I call it the Snuggie life. Every once in a while, you gotta snap out of that Snuggie life. And again, it's that shock, right? It's, it's, it's. It's lifting heavy weights, it's going for a run, talking about. Talking about, you know, shock. So yesterday. Well, this is last week now I did a 6.2 mile run because I got the Cooper Bridge run kind of up, and I just wanted to see what I could do in, in my 6.2 miles. So I, I darn near sprinted the entire thing just to see what I could do. The hardest, the hardest part, the first two minutes, that is the hardest part. But you shock yourself into rhythm. And then once you get into that rhythm, you start to. You start to really get engaged with what's in front of you. Start getting really focused on what's in front of you. Then all of a sudden, the, the, the footsteps. It's just one after another after another, and you're in rhythm. And that's what life's really all about is, Is creating a rhythmic masterpiece, is what I like to call it. Masterpiece. And that, and that's your life, you know? What kind of rhythm are you creating in your life? Is it a lot of ups and downs? Or is it that steady boy? You just want that steady boy? And that's, and that's, that's called consistency. And that's. We know consistency is key.
[00:13:23] Speaker A: Absolutely. Yeah, man. That's. I, I call it lifestyle. You, you know, you know, when, when you can develop those habits and those, Those rhythms. I like Rhythm. Because that remind me of shooting, because, you know, when you. When you shoot, you got. You got to be in rhythm, man. You know, it's so funny. I heard. I used to hear that, and I never understood it, and then finally it clicked. You know, everything, like, just kind of falls in line. It's a process, you know, like, for. For those basketball folks out there, you know, first is your feet. You know, they make sure that they're square, and then. Then it's the. The bend of the knees and it's the waist, and then it all, like, it flows. And you see somebody like Steph Curry, man, they do it in like 2.2 seconds, all the technique, and they knock it out because they've done it so many times, you know, and that. That. That's a test to. To your. Your wellness and your fitness. You continue to prep, rep, and repeat, pun intended. You continue to do that, man. You. You. You become proficient in. In those things, you know, whatever that thing is. Your goal might be to, you know, stay in shape. You know, you go. Might be to, you know, run a marathon, whatever. But the more you continue to. To develop on those things and make it. Make it a rhythm of your life, it just. It makes you that much sharper, man, because I even think about. With my. Like, I am a creature of habit, you know, I. I think a lot of people that, like, kind of can lock in, they become a creature habit. Like. Like, you know, like you said, when you have to teach class, you sleep in your clothes. You know, I. At the edge of my. My. My. At the edge of my. My dresser, I stack my clothes for the next day. Like, I can get up and pitch black and grab my clothes and go to the bathroom, and it. It's. It's. It's my rhythm. Like, I do the same thing every day, you know, and. And that. And when you develop that, man, it just. It continues to just propel you forward to. To the things you're trying to get to.
[00:15:14] Speaker B: Yeah. So I got a few things to say. One, I'm glad. I'm glad. I'm glad you brought up Steph. And I see that the code says sp, which is just a tribute to the Splash brothers from. From Golden State, baby.
[00:15:28] Speaker A: I just can't spell. My bad.
I know. I can't spell. Can't read.
[00:15:32] Speaker B: No, no, I'm glad I said that because it just. It just ties into the Splash brothers and all that. But okay, so Steph Curry. I was reading an article on Steph Curry, man, and he shoots. I think It's a hundred layups from the right side and then 100 layups from the left side before he hits that four footer, before he hits that five footer. And then he shoots a hundred free throws, you know, and, and it might not be 100, it might be 50 or 200, but then he hits the three point. Boy, everybody wants to hit the three pointer. No, very few people are willing to hit the layups, folks. It's the first step on the treadmill. It's the first layup of the day. It's getting your shoes on, it's opening the book, it's getting a pen in your hand. Whatever you want to do, do great. Do great at like being Steph Curry and hitting those long three boys. You gotta first hit those little layups. And you talk, you talk about habits, right? You talk about these routines and, and I sleep in my clothes and you have them at the edge of your bed. But there's that one day that you forget to sleep in your clothes or you forget to put your, put your stuff on the shelf or whatever.
Your, your, your, your, your hat or your routine is a little bit off, right?
You need to do something difficult to shock yourself back into that habit. Now you said that you are a creature of habit.
Everybody is a creature of habit. Not everybody is a creature of good habit.
Because how many times do the same people go, go to the same McDonald's and order the same exact thing day in and day out? I did it when I was in high school. I would have hockey practice on Tuesday. I wouldn't get done with hockey practice until 10 o'clock at night. I would go to the same McDonald's, I'd have the same two double cheeseburgers, large fried chocolate Millie and in a Diet Coke every single Tuesday night. That was habit. And once hockey, once hockey ended, I knew that, hey man, I got to change things up. I'm not burning that metabolism.
And I had to shock myself out of that rhythm because that's a rhythm too, right? That's a rhythm too. It's just not a rhythm that's gonna provide something back in value. And that's something that I talked about in my class this morning. You know, when you are engaging in an activity or you're engaging with a group of people, what kind of value are they giving back to you? What kind of value is that action or that decision giving back to you? And I think that's a, that's a secret to thriving or winning or becoming successful is looking at all the decisions you make and looking at all the actions that you take and saying, what's this giving me back? I'm pouring into this group of people. I'm pouring into this action. Like, if I'm going out on Friday night, what value is that in. In return to me? Maybe there is value. If there is value, boom, go do it. If there's not a value or a product coming back to you, I would say think twice about doing that thing or hanging around that group of people. Sorry, I took the show for a second there.
[00:18:34] Speaker A: You're good. No, no, that was good. I knew it'd get you excited. You know, I think about, you know, that when you're talking about the bad habit and what you used to do. I used to eat a. A Baconator from Wendy's before every game on Friday night.
It was my. So, okay, let me. I don't know if I told this story. You know, I went to a little one A football, you know, little one A school. And our very first game of the season, we played the, you know, a two way school that was super close. Like, I knew everybody over there, like, because we were the little country school and they were the quote unquote city school. You know, everybody's country technically in Sampson county, but Clinton High was the. The two way. You know, they want to change whatever. Our very first game, we played them and we blew them out. And it was my senior year. And so everything I did that day, I did for the rest of the season. Like, I listened to the same music, I wore the same shirt. I went and ate that Baconator every Friday. I did the exact same thing. School got out, I got in my car, drove to Clinton, got the Baconator, came back. I mean, all this played the same song, all the things, superstition. That's what it was. But.
But it was a routine. It was a terrible, terrible thing. I. I thought it was, you know, I was like, well, shucks, you know, we won with that bacon in. I'm gonna ride that bad boy.
[00:19:57] Speaker B: It gave you learn.
It gave you value.
[00:20:03] Speaker A: And I want to go back to, you know, when, when stuff happens that don't go your way. So I, I guess I. I say I'm not super. I'm a little stitches. I'm not superstitious.
[00:20:15] Speaker B: I am super extraordinarily stitches.
[00:20:18] Speaker A: Okay, I'm a. I'll say I'm a little stitches. But the reason why I say that is because whenever, you know, the routine is going, like I could. If I'm at the house and things just Clicking. And I don't let my phone distract me. You know, I can get out at a certain time. But there's one thing that, that if it don't happen, I feel like it might not be a good workout session. And when I get to the gym, I like, because I, I drive our van or my truck. I like those Pull through parks where I don't have to, like, back or, you know, I could just pull in and pull straight through if I got a Pull through spot. It's a good day, brother. Like, we're gonna have a good. We have a good day at the gym, man. But if I got a park or, you know, back. Yeah. In my, in my mind, it throws me off, man. I don't know what it is, but it throws me off. And, and that's just. But I have to get in there anyway.
[00:21:07] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:21:08] Speaker A: And I still have to do the work. But. Yeah, that's one of the, that's one of my little quirks, man, is if I get that Pull through park, I was like, okay, all right. Be a good one. We're gonna knock it out, man.
[00:21:19] Speaker B: I, you know, that's. It's funny because. So I don't go to the gym anymore. I have a gym in my house. But when I was going to the gym, I would have the same, Same idea, and I would park a mile away just, Just to get that parking space of I don't have to back up. Because, like, when you get done with the workout, like, the last thing you want to do is do something that's strenuous on your neck or just something you have to think about it. Oh, man.
[00:21:42] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:21:42] Speaker B: You know?
Yeah. So I, I, I, I relate to that.
[00:21:47] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:21:47] Speaker B: All right.
[00:21:48] Speaker A: That's good, man. That's good. So right quick, right quick, before I forget, we're going to drop this quick commercial, and then we'll get ready to land this plane.
[00:21:55] Speaker B: So the virtual part of it of E2M is just amazing because I can just do it in the comfort of my own home. I wake up, I get ready, I stretch, I drink some water, and right in my other room, I just work out. And it's just so easy. And then I can go right to work.
[00:22:08] Speaker A: Helps me with my crazy work schedule that I can go back on replay if I can't make it onto the live sessions. And there's just no excuses.
[00:22:16] Speaker B: Everything. I want to make an excuse now.
[00:22:18] Speaker A: I'm like, I can literally go anytime that I want.
[00:22:20] Speaker B: We could do it anywhere.
[00:22:22] Speaker A: Anywhere. Yeah. Our living room became our gym. I was on vacation, and I just did the workout. Yep. And if you fall off, you can always get back on.
[00:22:31] Speaker B: That's the beautiful thing.
[00:22:34] Speaker A: Get fit at home with E2N Fitness.
All right? Make sure you guys check out E2M Fitness.com if you are not familiar with it. One of the best virtual workout programs ever. What you got to say, Brad, before you.
[00:22:48] Speaker B: Before you land this plane? The. The thing. The thing that I don't know. That individual at the end there, I don't know who that was off the top of my head, but they said if you fall off, you can get back on. And you guys know I'm a storyteller.
[00:23:03] Speaker A: Do it.
[00:23:05] Speaker B: So my. My son, my little guy, Rush, he has a little tricycle he rips around around the house. And Beckett just wants to be on this tricycle so bad. And, you know, they fight and go back and forth. Beckett gets on Rush gets mad. Rush gets on Becky. So, anyways, Rushie, obviously is a little smaller. He's 2 years old, but when he gets on the tre. On the tricycle, he has a tendency of falling off. You know, he gets upset, he gets frustrated, he gets discouraged. But what's his next move? Get back up and get back on the tricycle. For him, there's no other choice, and I think that's where we all need to be. Don't give yourself another choice. But then to get back up onto your two feet, get back on that tricycle and try again, dad. That's what Beckett told me the other day. I said, beckett, we lost our hockey game. He goes, that's okay, dad. Try again. You have to get into that mindset. Try again, dad. Get back up, get on the trike and try again. That's the only way you're gonna win, bro.
[00:24:01] Speaker A: That's the closer, man. What are you talking about?
Hey, man, closer, brother. No, that's perfect, man. That's the. The more of the story. Get back up on that tricycle, man. Get back up on it. Try again. It's Monday. Don't matter what happened last week, man. We're good to go. All right, Brad, anything else?
[00:24:22] Speaker B: Good to go.
[00:24:23] Speaker A: All right, next time, y'all, we out of here.
