Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Disclaimer this episode, Mothers may be embarrassed.
[00:00:06] Speaker B: The death of all or nothing. Today we're going to talk about my mom.
[00:00:11] Speaker A: Let's get it.
Are you ready?
[00:00:16] Speaker B: Are you ready?
[00:00:32] Speaker A: What it looked like, Would it be like, what it do? Back in here, another episode of the Bad podcast, Brad and Dwayne. Bad stands for Brad and A is and. And the D is Dwayne, just in case you was wondering, man. We're back in here with another episode and, man, super excited about it as always.
I. I have to find the meme of the. The lady that was getting locked up and she said, mama, I love you. That's the first thing I thought about.
[00:01:03] Speaker B: Find that so we can post it.
[00:01:04] Speaker A: Gotta find it. Gotta find it, man. Brad, man, what's going on with you, brother?
[00:01:08] Speaker B: Hey, just trying to. Trying to live a blessed life in the summer months. You know, they bless us a little bit more up here in the north than. Thank you, but yeah, man, just, you know, getting the fitness game on. And the reason that I want to talk about this topic and it's really at the forefront is because summer months, a lot of folks will miss a day and they will take off the rest of the entire week. So that's why I wanted to talk about this topic specifically. But before we get into it, how are you doing?
[00:01:37] Speaker A: Hey, man, I'm good. You know, it's. It's a little hotter down here in the South. You will see very soon.
[00:01:45] Speaker B: We got a treat for everybody coming up too.
[00:01:47] Speaker A: We're doing.
[00:01:47] Speaker B: Yeah.
In person together. Bad boy.
[00:01:51] Speaker A: Yeah, man, we're gonna, we're gonna drop. Drop an episode in person.
Brad will be in town and we're actually.
We'll have some content too. We got some new marching orders from the COO about, you know, teasing our new. And I've immediately thought of you, Brad. Like me and you need to team up and do some stuff.
Teasing something that's coming out that involves, you know, partners and. Partners and things like that. But, uh, yeah, I'm excited about it, man. Before we jump in all that.
[00:02:21] Speaker B: Yeah, it's funny, I just.
I just did a recording of something and. And one of the things that I had mentioned, and it was very unintentional, was the lone wolf survives, but the pack thrives.
And just that, you know, that's just right in line.
Right, right, right. Yeah. But hey, let's. Let's dive in on this topic, man. And this one's important to me because my mother is what I like to call a Monday warrior.
And we all have Monday warriors. Whether the day is Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday or Sunday, we all have those individuals in our lives where if they miss a day, they're like, I'll just start whenever. And my mom, she's a Monday warrior because she's always looking to start on Monday. It could literally be Monday afternoon, Monday night, or Tuesday morning. And she says, well, I think I'm gonna start next Monday.
[00:03:19] Speaker A: I.
[00:03:20] Speaker B: And it's a. It's a. It's an ongoing laughing joke in our family because we know my mother to be pretty disciplined, but if she falls off, she's, ah, you know what? I'll just start Monday.
[00:03:31] Speaker A: Start fresh, man. It's so funny, man. You know, I've been working with a few people one on one, and my. One of my cousins that I've been working with, I was like, hey, man, checking in on you. He was like, well, you know, I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today, and, yeah, I made today a cheat day. I start over on money.
First of all, I never said day. That's where to start there, you know, I was like, and so what happens when you wake up on the wrong side on Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday, you know, and it kind of goes to what you mentioned about the death to the all or nothing mindset, man, because it's. It's so. It's so easy to fall into that trap, you know, especially if you are a person that likes, you know, like, perfection. You like to execute. You know, you're pretty driven. Whenever you stumble, you fall short. You're like, oh, well, erase the whole thing. Let's start fresh. You know, it's just a. It's a. It's a. It's a mindset I think so many people deal with. And I know you're probably going to get to it, man, but I remember the day I heard a phrase that we're probably going to mention later that just kind of like, changed my whole scope when it comes to that.
[00:04:44] Speaker B: What's that phrase?
[00:04:45] Speaker A: Oh, Mandy said it.
[00:04:47] Speaker B: I know you're going there. I knew. Yeah, I already knew.
[00:04:50] Speaker A: I didn't want to steal the thunder, man. I didn't know.
[00:04:52] Speaker B: Hey, I. I was gonna talk about that, but. But you mentioned something that I want to talk about.
[00:04:58] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:04:59] Speaker B: Prior to. To that. And it's perfection. Right?
So my. My little guy, my. My older son, he's five now, running up on six rather quickly, which is mind blowing. And everybody that's listening to this podcast has literally watched my. Both of my kids grow up. And you Know, everybody has many stories about my kids because I'm a storyteller. But my son's pre K teacher would tell him perfect is boring because he was a perfectionist. And if he colored outside the lines, he would start over and he would, you know, he would do that same thing and he'd start over and start over. Well, all the kids were finishing, right? They were executing. It wasn't perfect. There was flaws, there were imperfections. But Beckett never finished his artwork because he kept on looking to have a perfect piece of art. He was looking to be a Picasso, right? He wanted to be.
And he kept on coloring outside the lines and he was executing, but he was striving for perfection. And if you strive, this is two sided.
Strive for excellence, strive for perfection. Strive to be absolutely, you know, insanely on point, but with the expectation that you may draw outside the lines, you may color outside the lines. And that's just like simply life happening. That's that, that's, that's the process of, of life.
And so perfection is boring. And just to talk about this when, and we're going to talk about this a little bit too. So I have the no. 3x rule. And if you can draw an image in your mind, I, I like to have a calendar, right? And if I win a day, I got my gallon of water in, I was pretty good with my meals, I, I moved my body. It doesn't even have to be a full blown workout. Did I go for a half an hour walk, right. I did some physical activity. I put a green check on that on that day, right. And if I don't get all the things that I said I was going to do for that day, I put a pink check mark, I have two highlighters and they sit right by my calendar. Boom, pink check mark, right? If you look at a all green calendar, a perfect calendar, that's just not realistic, right? And there are people that do, you know, 30 days in a row because they're just like, they're probably fresh out of a relationship or something like that, or they're just like completely dialed in. Like you, when you are like coming close to a stage, you, you, you, a show or like when I'm like coming up on a marathon, you can't miss too many days, right? And your, your calendar might look just about perfect, but if you are looking at a normal person's calendar, it's going to be imperfect, right? It's going to be imperfect. And something that I had read the other day was that's, that's not perfectionism or that's perfectionism disguised as discipline. That's just discipline. You had a couple pink, pink days. That's discipline, right? Because it tells me that you're coming back after a bad day.
It's life.
[00:07:54] Speaker A: Absolutely. You have to, man. And that's. And if you don't, man, is the. That outcome is worse. You know, there's one thing to be disappointed in yourself and miss a mark or whatever, but like, the. The. The wallow in it.
[00:08:12] Speaker B: The.
[00:08:12] Speaker A: The. The deep dive into the other direction is worse than picking yourself up and trying again, you know?
And a lot of that, Brad, I mean, just to be real, a lot of that comes to pride, man. Some people is like, you know, they don't want people to see them start over, right? You know, and so they'll. They'll like, well, you know, I'm just throw it all away. What happened to that thing? Oh, man, it didn't work for me.
You know, I plateaued. I did this. It didn't. You know, and you come up with the excuses. And unfortunately, we live in a world where, you know, we. We let the excuses ride, you know, because so many people have them. And so a lot of times that. That backtracking, man, it just. It makes it worse. And then it's a harder road to climb out of, you know, it's. It's. It's. It hurts the ego, it hurts the pride. But hey, don't. Don't start over just because you get a red X starting, you know, hit that next day, hit that next button. I remember seeing a graphic talking about, you know, what. What a consistent week looked like versus what, you know, a perfect week looks like. And the perfect week was like, good, good, start over. Good, start over. Good, good. You know, consistent was like, good, bad, good, good, bad. Medium, you know, and it is. It's that mindset, like, you mentioned, like, it's not. Things are going to happen. It's gonna be too hot outside. You're gonna wake up late, you know, your air conditioning gonna go off. I'm just talking about my life. Then the last week, you know, all of that stuff happened to me this week, man, and just, you know, if. If I was the person, just like, oh, man, you know what? Starting over Monday. No, I gotta go do legs, Brady. You know, I hate legs. It's Monday, real time. When y' all listen. No, it's Tuesday, actually, because I gotta move this back. Anyway. It's Tuesday when y' all listen to this. And I mean, it's Thursday for me. And I gotta go train legs. I Woke up late.
A.C. upstairs is out. We got the little window unit joint going.
Like, you know, she still got out of meeting, you know, and recording this podcast. Like, gotta get my oil change. I can say, you know what, it's leg day. Yeah, you know, but no, I'm gonna stick to it because, you know, not necessarily just for me, but just because I want to build that habit, man. I want to be that example. I want to make that post in the group saying, hey, leg day, showing off these quads, you know what I'm saying? Like, I want that, man. And so instead of letting all those things distract me, man, we just keep turning, keep churning and keep burning, baby.
[00:10:48] Speaker B: Turning, churning and burning. I've heard that the people who succeed in life aren't the people who never miss. They're the people that come back asap, like, come back as quick as you possibly can. And that's, that's my 3x rule, right? And I, I alluded to the idea of the 3x rule and I never even explained it. So people are like, wait a minute, where's my. Okay, so the 3x rule is like, if you have two days where you just don't, you don't do the to do list, you can't have a three day, a three days in a row. You can't have three X's in a row. And that's a non negotiable for me. So coming off a weekend, most Saturdays I work out, but there over the summer months, man, I'm in golf tournaments. I got life, I got my, my kids golf lessons. I got, you know, everything going on on the weekend. So typically Saturday and Sunday, they're my rest days. And then if I have a Monday, like, you know how our busy, our Mondays are busy. We got meetings from top to bottom and recordings and social media content, all these things. I will not allow myself an X on a Monday. If I did not work out on Saturday, I just will not allow it. And that's what we need to establish. That's what we need to do a better job at is, is not allowing those excuses. Like, everybody's kids get sick, everybody's busy, everybody's AC goes out. I don't know if we mentioned it on the last podcast or not, but my AC also went out. Like, there are things, right? There are things that happen in life, there are things that occur in life that are going to allow you to take or have avenues to make an excuse. But you got, you got to find a way on those day and make it non negotiable to just find a way to make it happen.
[00:12:23] Speaker A: No, absolutely, man. It's just, it's, it's, it's, it's a matter of like you said, making it non negotiable, making it a priority, you know, remembering that thing like you know, continuing to, to keep going, to keep pushing, you know, don't. Not waiting for another Monday per se. And like I said, this episode ain't even dropping on Monday. So by the time you hear this, you should be started, you know, but don't, don't wait for the next. It's Tuesday now, so don't wait for the following Monday, you know, come back on Wednesday. We, we still here, we still grinding, man. And you know, don't, don't let, don't let those, those emotions control your decision, man. That's another thing because your, your emotions take over. You disappointed you disgusted you, you know, you feel bad.
Don't, don't let that drive you. You know, that's the difference between, you know, discipline and just being motive. We all are, you know, we can be motivated. We're the motivation folks. It's in the name, like that's what we do. But there's going to come days where you're not going to be motivated, man. And that's when discipline comes in and that's where consistencies just start to flow.
[00:13:35] Speaker B: 1 100%. You know, I, I talk about this quite often in, in my lives and in my different workouts. If you allow feelings and emotions dictate your next move, nobody in this world would be successful because how many days do I feel like getting out of bed at 3:37. I don't know, negative seven. Like never.
Right. If I allowed a motion to dictate whether I get under a 225 pound bar?
Never.
Okay, I'm gonna go run for 60 minutes. Yeah, I really feel like doing that today. Like I may be chipper on the screen and I may be excited to make the post, but it's very rarely how you feel and what your emotions are telling you on the, on the front end of a workout or a front end of writing a book. Like, yeah, you may have a little motivation and you may be driven to start, but like their feelings are going to tell you everything but get started. But you know, if you want to prosper in life, you got to force yourself in. Okay, we were going to talk about into the all or something mindset and that's what Mandy is like. She preaches night in and night out all or something. If you can't get a full blown workout, you can't get a good chest day and can't get a good leg day and can't go for a 60 mile run, go for a 30 minute walk, get your kids, go for a 25 minute walk, go get your spouse, go for a 25 minute walk,. You don't have to be all in. You just can't be all out. And if you're gonna start, golly, finish, like, just finish. Don't, don't even get started. If you ain't gonna, if you ain't gonna keep going on the hard days, because they're gonna be more hard days than great days.
[00:15:10] Speaker A: Absolutely.
[00:15:10] Speaker B: Plain and simple. Like, I'm so. All right. I'm so sick and tired of people making excuses. I got more excuses than anybody. I got my hands in, in, in seven different cookie jars. I got two kids that are growing up. I got sports, I got a wife, we got, we got careers. Like, I got more excuses than anybody.
[00:15:28] Speaker A: Right.
[00:15:28] Speaker B: You can't disappear when the excuses start to come to the surface level. You got to find a way to go all in on those days and especially those days.
[00:15:36] Speaker A: Absolutely.
Absolutely.
Preach, brother. Preach.
[00:15:43] Speaker B: Hey, I'm excited to be in Charlotte next week.
Well, right now I'm in Charlotte. Right this very moment, I'm in Charlotte as this, this podcast goes live. And one of the things that I really wanted to talk about is something that I talked about in the beginning of this podcast is the lone wolf will, will survive, right? A lone wolf will survive. And it's the pack that thrives. And if you get accountability partners or accountability family, it never makes the journey easier. It just makes it twice as hard to quit. If your AP is making a post, if your AP is shooting you a text message, right, and it's Tuesday and you fell off the wagon and your plan is to start next Monday, set six days away.
But your AP drops a post and says, hey, I got, I didn't want to do mine, but I got mine in. Did y' all get yours in? It's gonna force you to get back on the grind, whether it's that 20 minute walk or that, that 60 minute burner on the Treddy boy, or if it's under the 225 pound bar, or if it's 15 minutes of core, like, whatever, get yourself a pack.
Duo, duo, duo.
[00:16:58] Speaker A: You heard it first, ladies and gentlemen. I heard it first.
Nah, that's, that's dope, man. Ready to, ready to hang out with you as well, brother. This is the first time in a minute we've been in the studio the same time. So excited about that part.
Like I mentioned at the top of the episode, man. And so like we always say every week, man, make sure you post. I've been seeing some posts. I meant to grab them before we started recording, but this has been a busy morning. But continue to post this in the group. We appreciate it. Appreciate the love, appreciate the shout outs and, and, and I'll end with, with Mandy's famous phrase, man, all or something. Don't. Don't let it be all or nothing. All of something. Whatever that something is. Everybody's something is different.
Every year, something could be drinking water, more water. Today your something could be, you know, walking around the kitchen, around the island. Whatever. Whatever your something is, make sure you do it today. And when you do it, make sure you tag us. Post about it. Say, hey, I got him. Encouraged by this podcast and I want to let you guys know this is an all or something day and I'm proud of myself and I'm not waiting till Monday. Shout out to Brad's mom until next time.
