Episode Transcript
[00:00:02] Speaker A: What up, what up, what up? Welcome back to the Bad Podcast. Brad and Duane coming in here another Monday, wherever you listen to it in beautiful world. Like Bradley says, man. Brad, man, what are we talking about, man? This is the holiday week.
[00:00:15] Speaker B: Yes, sir. We're going to talk about that holiday. We're going to talk about thanks and gratitude. So gratitude turns what we have into fuel and what we dream into motion.
[00:00:26] Speaker A: I like that, brother. Let's get it.
[00:00:30] Speaker B: Are you ready? Are you ready?
[00:00:47] Speaker A: What it look like, what it be like, what it do? Back in here, another episode of the Bad Podcast. Brad and the Wayne and man, super excited to be coming to you again another week, another Monday.
But not just any other. Like I said, we're talking about gratitude. We're talking about Thanksgiving. We're not talking about food, but we will probably talk about that too.
[00:01:09] Speaker B: Yeah, we'll talk about some things.
[00:01:11] Speaker A: Yeah, man, you guys know, and, and first of all, man, shout out to everybody that's checking us out. Definitely appreciate all the love that you share.
Sharing is caring, especially during this Thanksgiving holiday. You got some family members, you know, send them the link, say, hey, you know, put, put us on the big screen. Go to YouTube with your smart TV. So check this podcast out, man. This would be good for everybody to circle up, circle around in between the football games. Throw us up on the big screen, man. We'll love to talk to your family. So if you're watching this on the big screen right now, what's up, family? How y'? All?
[00:01:46] Speaker B: Hey, man. Grind culture is the culture that we live in. And, you know, as people come together this week and, and they, they, they, they spread out around the dinner table and, you know, they, they talk about the grind. Hey, I'm so busy. And all these things go around.
I think sometimes we have to take a step back from that grind culture and express that gratitude and be grateful for the things that we already have. Because I, I, you know, when you think about the journey and when you think about where you're coming from, I, I think it's, it's easy to get lost and, and to always be in pursuit of something else. Like we're always in pursuit of something else. But some days you have to look back and say, wow, I've come this far.
I, I was there. Now I'm here. Wow. So when you express that gratitude, you do turn what you have currently into that fuel. Just like that quote was, you know, you turn it into fuel, and then you take what you, what you're dreaming of and you put that into motion. You put that into action. So I have five things written on my. My screen right now in front of me, and I want to talk about each one of these things and how they can be very applicable around the holidays. And I hope. I hope you can take one thing, extract one thing from this. This podcast. The first one says gratitude. Use it as a performance enhancer.
I think sometimes, you know, I'm a big mindset guy, and anything that you do, if you have a negative mindset, you're going to spiral out of control. You're gonna. You're gonna regress, you're gonna go backwards, you're gonna lose. But when you can, you can flip the switch on that. You can change that mindset to yes, I can. Wait a minute. To yes, I can. If you haven't signed up for Step Jam, this is the week.
[00:03:22] Speaker A: Come on, Segway, brother.
[00:03:27] Speaker B: Sign up for Step Jam. But when you can start to really just affirm yourself and validate yourself and. And. And convince yourself that, yes, I can. Yes, I will, you'd be amazed at what you can accomplish in your life just by that flip of the switch of.
I. I got this. You know, so. So having that mindset, some discipline, you know, through the holidays and. And we'll talk about food a little bit later in the show, but discipline through the holidays, and, you know, with discipline comes habit, right? And behaviors and routines.
There's. There's many mornings where I don't want to get up, right? And, you know, you. You. You are grateful for the opportunity that you get to get up, and there is nothing going outside of your home, and you realize that not everybody has the same opportunity as we have.
[00:04:21] Speaker A: Absolutely.
Absolutely. Brad, you. You've been spying on me for the last three days.
First, just the whole gratitude mindset. That was my cart ride on Tuesday. Tuesday morning, headed to the studio.
No music, just me and the open road, man. And I just. I just. Just started thinking, man, just how grateful, how blessed, you know.
You know, how far I've come. You know where I was headed? Like, I'm headed to the studio to. To. To work out for.
[00:04:58] Speaker B: For.
[00:04:58] Speaker A: For a living, you know, like, it just. It was just all flooding in all at once, man.
And then, you know, riding that way even in Wednesday morning, did not want to get up and go to the gym. Did not Made a whole video about. It was like, this is not that day. Like, it was.
I was in a hotel by myself. I didn't have to. I did not have to get up. You usually got to get up when I'm home. Like, I gotta help with the kids. You know what I'm saying? Like, my wife ain't gonna let me lay in the bed, you know, But I was in a hotel by myself. I could have laid there. Bradley.
And it was leg day. I hate legs.
I got up, man, and the gym was 30 minutes away because I go to no Limit. Shout out to no limit and Will Carter and now co owner Jeff.
The gym is 30 minutes away. So it was not a easy thing, man. But that discipline that you talked about, that, you know, I. I was like, I even was. I was. I was combating some of the quotes. It was like, there's no such a bad workout. I was like, is a bad.
[00:06:05] Speaker B: One. Work out.
[00:06:06] Speaker A: I never regret, man. Shoot, I regret.
But are you in your. In your intro monologue, brother, you touched on all those things, man, that real time, y'.
[00:06:18] Speaker B: All.
[00:06:18] Speaker A: Like, I literally walked through that in the last couple days, for sure.
[00:06:22] Speaker B: Yeah. Well, you know, it's your behaviors and routines that. That sort of kick in when that, when that mindset, when that internal dialogue starts to go south, it's that discipline that really kicks in. And, you know, that just. That just shows. So, like, I. I come into town once a month, maybe once every other month to do the same thing.
And the mornings I, like, I'm up at 6 in the morning, you know, just. Again, behaviors.
I'm up at 6 in the morning, I'm like, what do I do for the.
You know, again? So you go downstairs and you express that gratitude. You walk through a workout, good or bad, but you get. You get it done. Or. Or folks, you don't even. You know, we talk about fitness quite often. It doesn't have to be fitness. Something that falls into that bucket of self development. It could be something cognitive. It could be something mental. It could be something emotional. It could be something physical or. Or relational or professional. Like, it could be any of those buckets. So don't. Just, you know, when you hear the word fitness or you hear the words working out or words running or something like that, Dwayne's like, running. What? Who's that?
[00:07:32] Speaker A: I did not hear that word.
[00:07:34] Speaker B: It's one of those things that goes in one ear. Yeah.
[00:07:37] Speaker A: Like what. What did he say? Yeah, no, that's. That's so true, man. And I'm glad you brought that up, because it is applicable. That's the word smart. It is applicable outside of fitness. It's a mindset thing that. And you know, it. What we talk about, we. Because that's what the industry went in. We related to fitness. But it definitely applies to all aspects of your life and different varieties, you know, because I even, I even think about that part of the journey, like, as far as, like, a professional side.
I remember when I started to listen to guys like Gary Vee or guys like, you know, ET When I was in the corporate side, you know, when I was a recruiter, you know, I woke up every day, I was like, I'm about to be motivated. I'm about to be the lead recruiter. You know, all of these things that we're talking about, those disciplines and, and doing the hard thing and being grateful, you know, all those things apply, man, because, you know, when my mindset started to change in that space, I started to see my production change in that space as well. Yeah, definitely covers it.
[00:08:43] Speaker B: Well, a lot of folks think that they're going to find you. You spoke of motivation. A lot of things.
A lot of folks think that they're going to discover motivation and that's going to lead to action, folks. Motivation comes from action. When you are, when you are motivated, it's because you, you took action. When you are confident or if you're, you're courageous, it's because you did the hard thing. You're not going to find that courage and then take action. You got to take action, you know, and then that's gonna, that's gonna lead to courage and confidence and, you know, just to segue into, into the next thing.
While you're at the dinner table and while you're talking about fitness and while you're talking about self development and while you're talking about positive podcasts and just that mindset thing. Share your story, ladies and gentlemen, share your story. Duane shares his story often. I share my story often.
You never know who's going to relate to your story.
There's somebody that's deep into a corner, doesn't know a way out, you know, seeking, you know, help and advice.
Your story could be. Be the exact story that somebody else needs to hear. So share your stories. Highlight the impact of, of what you're doing. You know, it could again, be fitness, or it could be something completely unrelatable to fitness. Whatever, whatever. Your, your positive vibes are professional, relational, you know, so on and so forth. Share your story. It could save somebody.
[00:10:10] Speaker A: Absolutely. Absolutely, man. And I, you know, those know me, I keep my before and after in my favorites folder. Like it's a quick.
I can pull it out real quick just for that reason, just for the opportunity to show, you know, like, hey, this is possible, you know, And I also think about, you know, especially when you get family and stuff around, that's usually the time that you, you know, your parents want you to show off a little bit, man. You know, do that little dance that you've been doing.
So kind of that same mindset, man, like, you know, like, yeah, but Dwayne lost all that weight, man. Show me some pictures. You know, it's an opportunity to, to inspire that. That cousin or, or like, like Whitney used to say, that crusty cousin.
But no, it, you know, it's. It's inspiring and, and, you know, you never know who's listening. You know, the, the people that are impacted the most are sometimes the ones that don't even give a reaction.
[00:11:13] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:11:13] Speaker A: You know, they they're just like, oh, okay. And, you know, go home and like, life change, you know.
[00:11:18] Speaker B: Right.
[00:11:18] Speaker A: So don't, don't feel like you have to make something happen in the moment, man. Just, just do your part. Share your story. You know, Try to inspire, try to motivate all of that, man.
[00:11:29] Speaker B: And, and what that does too, folks, is it when you can share your story and impact others and, and really boost that community aspect.
You know, it's. It's full circle. I talk about the law of attraction quite often, and what the law of attraction is, is what, what sort of energy you put out into the universe, it typically comes full circle. So if you're, if you're some sort of person that is always putting negative vibes out into the universe, and you're always wondering why you can't catch that break. You're always wondering why you can't find yours or discover yours. There's a reason, and that's, that's the energy that you're putting out. So, you know, not just impacting and influencing and motivating others. Look, to serve others, man. It's. It's the holidays. You're going to see somebody out there doing, doing the. Ringing the bell for the Salvation Army.
[00:12:14] Speaker A: There's.
[00:12:15] Speaker B: There's so many folks out there doing good in the world.
Go out there and. And, and help somebody, serve somebody, you know, and, and make an impact in that sense, too.
[00:12:25] Speaker A: Yeah, my. I'm so childish, man.
My mind went to one of my favorite movies of life. You know, they was going around telling what everybody did. He's like, at least I didn't kill Santa Claus.
He wasn't the real Santa Claus. He was standing outside ringing a bell.
[00:12:45] Speaker B: I don't. Who's in that movie? I Don't know if I ever saw that.
[00:12:48] Speaker A: Oh, that's a classic, bro. It's Eddie Murphy and Martin Lawrence, man.
[00:12:52] Speaker B: Yeah. Old school, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know.
[00:12:56] Speaker A: Hey, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, don't, don't say it like that, man.
[00:13:01] Speaker B: I, I, I briefly touched the 80s.
[00:13:06] Speaker A: Scratch the 80s, okay? All right. You made, you made me feel old for. Oh, yeah, old school. That's from 1997, the 1900s. Like you was born.
[00:13:20] Speaker B: You know, someday we're going to be saying that we were born in the 1900s.
[00:13:25] Speaker A: That's what my kids say right now, man. You're born in the 1900s. I was like, what?
[00:13:32] Speaker B: The significance of that, you know, for anybody that's brand new to listening, this is just what happens. But anybody that's an og, they're just like, another day. But, you know, the significance is, I think, downplayed right now. But in another 50 years, people are going to be looking at like, wow. Do you remember the year 2000? Like, I remember that very well and very vividly. My, My parents do. Wild, wild story.
I was 14, 14 years old on that day. My parents left all three of us home alone. We were home alone on, on the Millennial.
On the millennial Millennial year. And, like, the power is supposed to go out. The Internet was gonna cry everything, right?
And we were home alone and we had friends over. We, it was like eight of us, and we were all in my parents basement. And when that thing clicked over, we were all holding our breath and we were extremely nervous. Like, what do we do when we're home alone? I don't know.
And, yeah, so, I mean, that all was good. Obviously, we're here 25 years later, which is also just mind blowing. And. Yeah, but that's my, my wife.
[00:14:39] Speaker A: That's funny, man. I, I was in church playing the drums. Yeah, yeah, we, they had this thing called watch night service.
And because I didn't know what was going to happen, I was like, well, you know what? I'll play tonight. Let me, let me make sure I'm in the right spot.
[00:14:54] Speaker B: Yeah. Preventative measure.
[00:14:56] Speaker A: Yeah, man. So the countdown, I was like, all right, we good?
Good. I can go. Keep being crazy.
[00:15:03] Speaker B: Yeah, well, you know, community, man. You surround yourself with good people. You surround yourself with community.
I think that's one of the, the big things, you know, when we talk about all of this stuff is, is community.
And I heard this thing the other day.
This kid was a valedictorian for his high school. I mean, you may have seen this. And folks may have seen this, but he talked about working his absolute hardest his senior year, investing all this time into being the valedictorian. Like, that was his big dream for the year.
And he had spent so much time and he had committed all of himself to becoming the valedictorian. And when they handed him the piece of paper and said, hey, you are the valedictorian, he said, I was enthusiastic, I was excited, I was through the roof for 15 seconds. But in that 16th second, I lost that.
Wow, that was really exciting.
[00:15:57] Speaker A: Right?
[00:15:58] Speaker B: But what happens in the 16th second?
Are people still celebrating? Are still people. Are people still cheering for you in that 16th second?
And the answer is seldom, rarely, right? And what, what the message was, was he had cut ties with several folks that were very close to him so he could be committed to that valedictorian. And he had, he had. He had squashed relationships and he had lost good friends. And, you know, he wasn't. He wasn't talking to his parents or his siblings. And he said, you know, that was one of his biggest regrets with the pursuit of the valedictorian status, because on that 16th second, all those folks that would have been cheering for him still, all his best friends, all his family members, they weren't really cheering for him because he had essentially inadvertently cut ties with those folks. And I always find that.
I always find that kind of.
[00:16:57] Speaker A: I.
[00:16:57] Speaker B: Guess, impactful, because I, I, you know, I've went through a very busy season of life. You are in a very busy season of life. And I'm very intentional with who I surround myself with, but I have. I have sort of segregated myself in that sense and stayed driven to my goals. And now those 16 seconds are happening and I'm like, man, this is awesome. But those best friends that I would have had next to me and in my corner, that community aspect, like, my parents are still cheering for me through the roof, man.
But, you know, those 16 seconds, I. And that's, that's what I want to ask everybody that's watching this is, do you still have folks supporting you in the 16th second?
[00:17:43] Speaker A: All right, I got a couple of things for this. Yeah, A couple of things.
[00:17:46] Speaker B: First.
[00:17:49] Speaker A: If, like, so bodybuilding in itself is isolating sport. Like, no doubt about it, like, it's going to make. It does that to your life.
And my circle has always been small, but during that time, I see the real ones in the circle. So my answer would be in. In that 16 second, they're still there because they're the real ones. They're not. They're not the ones that only do if I got something to benefit them with. Right.
So I'll start there like that because that, that is definitely the case. And, and those folks are definitely still there cheering, you know, as opposed to the ones that are there for their own benefit. And when I wasn't in the 15.
Yeah. When I wasn't in a place to, to, to give it, give anybody else anything else because I didn't have anything else, you know, that, that, that, that made a difference.
Second, you know, when you're that driven about something, it's funny, but it's not funny. People say that Michael Jordan is the goat because and, and LeBron is not. Because LeBron is a good dad.
[00:19:09] Speaker B: That's a terrible way to think about it, but.
[00:19:13] Speaker A: Good dad is it. Michael Jordan was like, hey, it's basketball. Like, that's it.
It's terrible. I, I listen, I know it's bad, but it's, there's truth to that. You know, Michael Jordan was, was so laser focused on what, you know, what was at hand. He, he, I mean he definitely in the interview recently he said he tries to take advantage of family time and all of that, but that, that's the separator of the levels and you, and both of them are successful.
[00:19:46] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:47] Speaker A: You can be zeroed in, lasered in, focused in on your goal, be successful, whatever, or you can be balanced and you not quite hit the pinnacle. And I like this because Gary V. Talk about this a lot. You know, you can, you can make 35000 a year and be happy.
[00:20:03] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:20:04] Speaker A: And, and be satisfied and be content and he's gonna cheer you on. Or you can strive for the 100k, you can strive for the Millie, but you know there's gonna be some stress with it. He's like, if you're going for it, don't complain because you're, you decided to go for it. He's like, if you complain like, oh, just settle, settle for where you at.
So there is not one is better than the other.
9 times out of 10, the guy at the 35 is happier than the guy at the 100k to Millie, you know, but just, just don't measure your success by anyone else. Measure success by the people you care about. And that small circle that's going to be there in that 16 seconds.
[00:20:45] Speaker B: 100. I love that.
And as you guys are surrounding the, the dinner table this upcoming week and you know, hopefully everybody gets that opportunity because even a step further, Dwayne, not everybody's going to get that same opportunity, like I'm going to sit down with my parents and my, my brothers and sisters and their wives and husbands and, and their kids and, you know, I have that opportunity. Not everybo. That opportunity. So success is, is. Is kind of a very complex thing in that sense where it's not a dollar amount, it's not a weight amount. It's not a, you know, it's not a accolade thing. It's, it's, it's. It's all you're working your hardest every day, you know, and I think, I think it was Gary Vee that said he knows a lot of. A lot of folks that make $35,000 that are extremely happy. Knows a lot of folks that make $35,000 that are not happy. You know, there's a lot of folks that make multi millions that are very happy and multi millions that are not very happy.
So I think if you're working your heart heartest and you have that mindset surrounding gratitude. Gratitude, I, I think that's how you find that happiness. And you know, you talk about mj, it was in the movie, he said something like, you don't understand.
No, most people don't understand me. All I wanted to do is win basketball games. Like, that's what he wanted to do. That's what his mindset was. That's what his light that he. That's what he wanted his legacy to be. Ask yourself what you want your legacy to be. Your legacy is something that you're remembered by when you're long gone, you're six feet under.
People look at me. I. I want to be a philanthropist. I want to be somebody that people are reminded that that guy gave back. He worked his hardest. He did crazy things to help others. You know, he made an impact. Like, that's what I want my legacy. I want my kids to speak to dad like that. And I want my wife and my siblings to say, brad, hard worker, gave back, made an impact, you know, motivated people, encouraged people. So I think you have to ask yourself, like, what do you want your legacy to be?
And surround your hard work around whatever you want your legacy to be.
[00:22:50] Speaker A: I like it, man. Good stuff. Yeah. All right, y'. All. As we get ready to conclude this episode, man, again, if you're traveling, please be safe out there. This is the most traveled holiday season week, so be safe. Don't text and drive unless you were born in the 82. 82 to 85.
[00:23:15] Speaker B: Because we were 87. Stretch it. 87.
[00:23:19] Speaker A: We had our license and the phone at the same time. But.
But anyway, man, we appreciate y' all listening in. And, man, just. Just at the end of the day, it's all about being grateful.
Being grateful. No matter what the circumstances, it always can be worse and it always can be better. So they give you something to strive for. So. All right, Brad, close this out, brother.
[00:23:44] Speaker B: I think you just did, my friend.
[00:23:46] Speaker A: I love it. Let's get out of here. Peace.
