Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: What up? What up? What up? Welcome back to the Bad Podcast, Brad and Dwayne. And, man, if you need help, you got to find out who to call.
[00:00:08] Speaker B: Ghostbusters.
[00:00:09] Speaker A: Ghostbusters. That's it. That's it, man. No, we're super excited to be back in here, man, with my brother Brad. Brad, what we talking about today, my friend?
[00:00:16] Speaker B: All right, we're going to talk about accountability. We're going to talk about reaching out for guidance. A bland, a blind man stood at a corner waiting not for pity, but for someone to notice the silence in his need. Never asking yet hoping the world might still offer a hand without being told.
[00:00:32] Speaker A: I like it, man. Let's get into it.
[00:00:36] Speaker B: Are you ready? Are you ready?
[00:00:53] Speaker A: What it looked like, would it be like, what it do? Back in here? Another episode of the Bad Podcast, Brad and Wayne coming to you live. Well, not live, but whenever you list this where you are in the beautiful world, you're catching it real time, man. Super excited. Got my brother Brad in here, man. Another good episode, man. We are on 133 episodes, man. We've been cooking, we've been cleaning, we've been doing all the things, you know, trying to get it done, but, man, super excited. Definitely want to shout out the folks on YouTube. We had a lot of chat on YouTube. I did not want to, you know, call anybody out this time because it was actually a lot of chatter, Brad. So I'm. I'm. Yeah, that's always a good thing. And y' all, look, y' all, excuse me. Alicia is texting me, asking me what is the code to the gate? So let's get my sister in the gate real quick.
[00:01:38] Speaker B: I'll take over. I'll take the wheel here. Yeah, man, shout out Candy Parker. She actually.
She actually shot me an email with the screenshot and everything. So, guys, at the end of this month, at the end of. At the end of June, doing another giveaway, doing a book, maybe a hat, maybe some bracelets. So Candy Parker entering the running once again. I think she's. She's emailed me like, two or three times. So shout out to Candy. Shout out to everybody that's getting involved. So drop a comment on. On the live feed on the YouTube, drop a comment in Facebook, shoot me an email, take a screenshot of you listening, and you'll be entered to win that. Win that giveaway at the end of June.
[00:02:13] Speaker A: Yeah, man. Yeah, good stuff. And, you know, it's funny because we do so many of these, and we do this. We're in and out Every week, you know, me and Brad, we like, we literally like, knock it out and then we keep moving, man, because we got always something going on. But like, I even forgot what the episode was about. But I see that we mentioned a lot about the Olympic stuff. And I'm gonna read this one just because it kind of stood out.
Ms. Faye Price 6773 says, I'm diabetic, so I have to take Olympic. It does not help my weight loss because I have elevated blood sugar and because of steroid oic is not a fix.
You should still. You still have to watch what you eat and work out, so.
Very true. Especially those that, that are diabetic and they are. Is prescribed. But like, like we mentioned before and even some people didn't know we had, you know, content on that. So make sure you check out our YouTube channel, do the scroll, you can even search it and we have a couple of videos on that. But definitely appreciate Faye for sharing that with us and the many other folks in the conversation. So jumping in, man, the blind man. Talk to me B. Let's get it.
[00:03:21] Speaker B: Yeah, you know, just to speak to what you were saying too. A lot of, A lot of companies right now are knocking those, knocking these things. We talked about it last week, like it is a fix to maybe get yourself to a point of transition, but it is a transition point. It is not a forever fix. Fitness, you got, you got to engage in fitness, you got to engage in physical activity. You got to engage in the nutrition piece. And. And that's what E2M is, right? We, we do the physical activity, we do the nutrition we do. You know, so we're not knocking Ozempic, we're not knocking any of that weight loss stuff. You know, like I said, it's a transitional tool. Once you get to that transition, then it's time to engage in the more important things. Physical activity, nutrition, so on. But blind man standing at the corner. And the blind man will wait forever unless he speaks up, right? And right now we're in an era where it's. It's scary to ask questions. It's scary to speak up and speak your mind. I was always the kid in, in high school or elementary school, I was afraid to raise my hand. I. I never, ever wanted to raise my hand. And it was always funny. Like, I always had a question like, hey, why did he do she and that do this?
And it was always like my buddy, like three seats down, he'd ask the exact same question. But I never put my hand up and Then I always felt a sense of being even more silly because I didn't ask that question. Like, that was my question, you know, I, I wanted to ask that. So I think we gotta, I think we gotta do a better job at reaching out for assistance. Like a lot of people, their big breakthrough is one question away. Like, there's always somebody better than us, right? There's only a handful of greats in the world. Oh, the, the, the, the, the top of their, of their totem pole. You got, you got one basketball player that's the best. You got one football player that's the best. You got one entrepreneurial person in that field that's the best, but everybody else is below that person. So there's always somebody better than you or, or, or, or at a different level, a higher level than you that you can reach out to for assistance and guidance.
[00:05:12] Speaker A: Yeah, no, so I was the opposite, man. I, I did not mind asking questions.
I did not my out. I was like, I'll put your hand down. Like, we're not taking questions at the moment.
But no, that, that's so true. And especially, you know, in the, the time that we live in, you know, where, you know, a lot of information is, is, you know, readily available. But what I found out is a lot of people don't know how to, how to search for that information. And so they, they're, they're, they don't want to ask the question because they, you know, feel intimidated. And then, you know, there are resources available. They don't know how to use the tool, get their answers, man. So it's really important, you know, like you mentioned, you know, find somebody you can, you can glean from some. Find somebody you can, you can, you know, ask questions you can bounce things off of. You know, it's really important that you find somebody like that, especially if there's a, if there's an interest. And that's definitely like, whenever I find something that I'm interested in, you know, my default is to, you know, kind of connect with somebody, you know, especially.
So if you don't have a, like in my, in bodybuilder, I have a coach, so I could go to my coach. You know, if you don't have a coach in the certain thing, then you can reach out. You know, a funny thing is, is, you know, in the bodybuilding world, you know, sometimes the, the coach. Well, I guess in any world, the coach get a bad rap. You know, if you, you don't win, then, you know, the coach didn't do something right? And so there, There's a couple of guys, you know, I'm, I'm just, I'm. I'm definitely on the outside of the fence of this game, but there's a couple of guys that.
They have a coach, and then they. They kind of get caught asking everybody else questions that is, you know, getting all this extra input. And it happens in fitness, you know, even with E2M, when we give out the plan and then people go to a local personal trainer and they was like, you can't have this. You know, they. They kind of try to put extra input, man. And so, you know, just, Just be mindful. I know it's kind of a tangent, but just be mindful, you know, of where your information is coming from.
You definitely want somebody that knows more than you or somebody has a little bit more wisdom than you.
But, you know, sometimes it could. It could come from a wrong place. You know, sometimes you can, you can ask somebody because what. What is. They don't. Don't ask a single person marriage advice, you know, you know, like, sometimes it. It could come from. From a place of not knowing, man. So just, I guess, kind of be mindful of that.
[00:07:37] Speaker B: Well, I think the reason we do that is because it's more comfortable to ask somebody that's lateral or behind us that, that for that guidance, ask somebody of, Of a higher level. Like, for me, you know, when it comes to the fitness game, and I, I don't do this as much as I used to, but I would. I would rather find a runner that's exactly the same as me or behind me for, for advice, just, just, I mean, for a sense of confidence. Like, I, I'm gonna ask that person because I want to feel more confident in my. In myself and in my question versus if I, If I was to reach out to Matt Wilpers, that's with Peloton, and he's a great runner. If I were to ask somebody like that, like, it'd be very intimidating for me to go up to somebody like that and say, hey, I need some. I mean, I need some running bites. But that's the only way that you're going to get better. That's the only way you're going to level up is if you go to somebody that's a lot better than you say, hey, I need some help. Like, for you. Eric's a coach. Eric's a prime example. Like, he's, he's levels ahead of you, but that's why you went to him, because he's been through the. He's been through the trenches. He's. He's been through the trials and tribulations, and that's how legacy is built, by going to somebody that's. That's. That's bigger than you, expressing a little bit of vulnerability, getting outside your comfort zone and saying, hey, I need some help. And especially, I think, is it June or. I think it's June. That's a mental health. Men's. Men's mental health.
[00:09:01] Speaker A: So I think it is.
[00:09:03] Speaker B: I know May was mental health.
[00:09:05] Speaker A: Yeah. Like me, man. So reason why. And this is funny. I. I know Asian probably don't listen to these, but we, we kind of. We had this conversation. You know, we had the episode, if you guys don't know, we had a new episode of the Eager to Motivate podcast. And we interviewed Jarvis, Jarvis Green from the Patriots. And, you know, Jeff said, you know, it was Men's Mental Health Month, and she was like, I don't know if it, you know, officially is or whatever. So that's why I'm not confident right now.
[00:09:34] Speaker B: So Google says June.
[00:09:36] Speaker A: Okay, that's. And that's the same thing I said. I was like, google says do.
[00:09:40] Speaker B: So I, I asked Dr. Google if, you know, if this mark right here means this, that or the other. Google. Google is that level above me. So I, I always trust and have faith in Google. But mental health, like, this is a prime time to talk about this, because the fellas especially.
[00:09:57] Speaker A: Oh, man.
[00:09:57] Speaker B: Have a tough time voicing why they're not where they want to be or how can I get assistance. How can I, yeah. Reach a lot. An optimal level. And I listened to a little bit of that jarviscreen podcast, and he was saying the same thing. Like, when you go into the locker room, you. You can't show your emotion. You can't show how you truly feel because you're gonna. You think you're gonna be judged. You probably will not be judged, but you think you're going to be judged because how many people have the same sense of a feeling as you do? Like, I, I feel sad, I feel mad. I feel this. I feel that. But if you express that, there's going to be more people that follow suit and open up.
[00:10:32] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah. It's like you mentioned, it's a level of vulnerability and it's a level of humility. You know, being humble enough to admit you need, you know, some help. Because, you know, man, we naturally, you know, our egos, you know, that. That is the.
That's the main corporator, man. Like, we. We naturally you know, feel a certain way when we, you know, we. We. When we don't know something, you know, we feel a certain way. And, you know, and it's like a defense mechanism, you know, to kind of close off and. And, you know, whatever. So, yeah, definitely for the man, when it comes to asking for help, asking for things, you know, I mean, it. I. I think it plagues so many people, man. Just on the. Like you mentioned, you know, you're talking about NFL players and, you know, just. Just regular Joes, like me, me and yourself. Like, there's certain instances where, you know, you. You much rather figure it out, you know, like, you much rather.
Instead of putting yourself out there being vulnerable and just saying, hey, I'm feeling like this. Can you help? Or I'm. I'm starting this adventure, you know, do you have any wisdom? You know, something like that? And that's just. That's just something we have to, you know, be proactive in trying to. To get better at and trying to, you know, just. Just grow in that area, man. But it's not easy because, again, it comes with vulnerability when you're vulnerable, and especially if you had a bad experience, you know, with it, where you did it, and somebody shunned you or somebody ghosted you. Because if. I mean, I always go back to when I started podcasting, man. I used to reach out to everybody. Like, all the guys I looked up to, I used to reach out to them, and you see. You see that red message and no response, like, okay, all right. You know, and so I made it my business, man. If anybody reached out to me about podcasting, like, I would.
I give them the form, man. Like, no, like, people like, you need to come up with a course and, you know, like, nah, man. Like, so many people left me on red or gave me vague advice. I was like, nope. Once I. Once I figure this thing out, man.
Freely receive, freely give. I think that's written down somewhere.
[00:12:40] Speaker B: Yeah, I like that a lot. I. I was listening to Andy Frisella's podcast one time, and he mentioned the same thing. I think he's at a level now where he. He can't probably keep up with his messages and comments and such, but when he was first starting off, he'd get 100 comments on a picture that he had post, and he would right back to every single one of those. So, you know, for anybody out there that's just getting into the podcast world or just getting into the entrepreneurial world, any. Any world that you're trying to. To level up in.
It's going to take 50 no's before you get that one. Yes.
[00:13:10] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:13:10] Speaker B: So I, I stay, I say be persistent, be, be consistent and, and never stop. But you know, going back to what we were talking about with ego, you know, you walk into the room and that fellow over in the corner, that's, that's usually the loudest. That's, that's probably the most confident person. But that pro, that person probably has the least knowledge.
And the reason that we're so drawn to people like that is because they are loud. So always, you know, like you said right from the get go, Dwayne, like, always be very aware of where you're getting that information and that knowledge. Because when you walk into a room and somebody has a big ego and they're, and they're, and they're shouting and saying, I know this and I know that it's not necessary, it's not necessarily the smartest person in the room.
And you know, when, when you start to navigate those waters and you navigate with a big ego, it leads to poor decision making. It leads to insecurities because, because you, it's, it's almost like, it's almost like you're on a ship, right? And you make one bad decision and you don't own that decision and you're, you're heading north when you should be heading south. But instead of saying, hey, I need to look at the compass and I need to, I need to talk to the co captain, I don't know what the pirates use in the terminology.
I need to reach out to the co captain and say, hey Cap, I made one bad decision, one bad decision because my insecurities are speaking volumes to me now and I'm heading north versus south. I'm afraid to ask, hey, what do I have to do? Like, how do I, how do I flip the sails around so I can head south versus north? And then all of a sudden they're in the art or they're in, they're in Greenland when they should be in the Bahamas soaking up all the vitamin D.
And that, and that essentially blocks your growth, right? That blocks you from finding the treasure because you made the one bad decision because you let your insecurities speak to you versus saying, you know what?
I'm going to own this. I'm going to reach out for some advice. I'm going to say, hey, co Cap, I, I made a poor decision.
Need some help? We need to get this ship turned around. And at that point you pivot and, and you start making the Right. Decisions. You start heading towards the treasure.
[00:15:18] Speaker A: Yeah, man. No, that's. That's big. And. And I think we see it real time where that's not the case, where there is no course correct. And, you know, the. The.
The ship just keep going in the wrong direction, you know, and. And the crew, you know, because. Especially if it's a lower crew, I mean, they're like, I know this ain't right, but you're the cap.
[00:15:43] Speaker B: Let's keep going.
[00:15:44] Speaker A: Like, Greenland it is, you know, But. But you know, that. I mean, that actually gets into something else, man. When. When you're part of the crew and you are on the ship, you know, do you speak up? You know, do you say, hey, you know, north stars that way, you know, like.
[00:16:02] Speaker B: Right.
[00:16:02] Speaker A: Like. Like, like what. How do you approach that? You know, and. And that in itself takes courage. That in itself takes, you know, a little fortitude and being willing to stand up and, you know, And. And speak up on that or whatever. So, yeah, that. That's a whole another episode right there, man.
[00:16:18] Speaker B: You're not. I mean, we could. We could talk about that for days, but, you know, just talk about intimidation. If. If you're the. If you're the man in the mail room, you know, if you're Will Ferrell and Elf down in the mail room drinking bourbon out of the coffee mug and you're dancing on the table, you know, it's. It's hard to go to Papa Hobbs and say, hey, man, you got to do this, that, and the other. But, you know, now my. Now my mind's at Elf and Will Ferrell. But, you know, what's. You know what's great about that movie is they literally take the mailman, Will Ferrell, they take the Elf and use his story to.
[00:16:53] Speaker A: To.
[00:16:53] Speaker B: To create the.
[00:16:54] Speaker A: Their.
[00:16:55] Speaker B: Their new publishing business. Like, what? Yeah, I mean, this all kind of ties in, but it doesn't. But it does.
[00:17:02] Speaker A: I already got the real together in my mind. Like, I. I. That. This part, man, I'm gonna have Elf on. On the. On the table doing the Russian dance.
[00:17:13] Speaker B: Make sure you try to collab with Will.
[00:17:15] Speaker A: Yeah, I know, right?
No, but that's. That's so. Man, you. I never thought about the big picture of that aspect. Like, from the mail room to, you know, his story actually saving that whole company. I mean, it was a big, huge, huge business.
In his very story, I ended up saving it all. You know, that's. Yeah, it's crazy.
[00:17:34] Speaker B: And for anybody that's listening to this or watching this, know that this is A not real story. It's, it's the buddy, the Elf with Will Ferrell and Walter Hobbs. I don't know his real name, but just, just, just a reference for those that know the movie and, and how you can be at the very bottom. And like, so the character Elf in that movie, like, he wasn't scared to say anything. Like, he, he went to the, the worst coffee shop in New York and he's like, this is the best coffee in the world. And just, just having that vulnerability to say, I'm just gonna go out there and give it a shot. I'm gonna go out there and give it, give it a chance. And, and yeah, live to what you want to live to, man. Like, I, I always bring this story up in my lives.
Sushi. My, My sister is a big sushi fan and she lived up in Buffalo and like two miles down the road from her house, she'd rave about this sushi joint. And I would always tell her that I'm never, never eating sushi. I don't eat raw fish. I don't rock like that. It's one of my favorite foods today. Why? Because I got a little vulnerable. I went out there and had one piece. I was like, golly, this ain't too bad. I'll have another piece. We, we don't do things sometimes because we have it built in our minds that it's, it's nasty or it's not. For me, without ever trying or without ever speaking to what's important to us. And you never know, like, if I, if I said something to Jeff, you know, that's been real heavy on my mind, but it was something that maybe he didn't align with at the moment. It could be a big wake up call for him. Like, holy. It'd be the aha moment. Holy cow. Maybe he is right. You know, maybe she is right. So, you know, just, just to, to speak to our, our audience.
If you're, if you're in the mail room, you're sipping bourbon out of a coffee mug.
Tables go up to the top level.
If you have something of value, speak that. Something of value. And you never know how far it's going to go.
[00:19:27] Speaker A: Wow. We went in a totally different direction.
[00:19:30] Speaker B: Don't. Don't we always navigating the unknown territory. Unknown waters.
[00:19:36] Speaker A: Yeah, man. Yeah. No, that, yeah, that, that's. I mean, honestly, that, that was a, a really good, like, you know, little off offshoot, you know, because I think a lot of you can, can relate to that. You know, situations where they should have spoken up or they should right now. They might, it might be in that situation right now, and this conversation might be the very thing. It was like, you know what? I'm going into that office tomorrow and you know, and, and we're gonna, we're gonna tell them the story. So now that's really good.
[00:20:05] Speaker B: Before you do, just, just know your audience, know your information.
Go, Go in there with some confidence. But know what?
[00:20:14] Speaker A: The Bad Podcast is not responsible for any.
It's not responsible for any drastic career moves, and we will not be compensating for any loss of employment.
[00:20:33] Speaker B: You know, I'm gonna go way back a handful of years on this one and, and I'm gonna speak to an ex employee.
She was a run coach of ours, but she reached out to me one time after I, I went off on a live and just, just said essentially what we just talked about for the last 20 minutes and she, she quit her job. She said, I want to chase something bigger. I want to chase something different.
And you know, she has, she has her own run thing going on today, but she quit her job on the spot.
But, but you know, that's just a, that's a, that's a component of, of chasing your dream.
And like Dwayne said, like I say, we're not responsible if you, if you make a big, massive change or massive shift in your life. We are not responsible. But do your homework now.
[00:21:18] Speaker A: If you. Now, now that, that jump caused you to win and there's an increase, you can make sure you. We look for sponsors you can always reach.
[00:21:27] Speaker B: You will be the, the primary spot. The. The title sponsor of the Bad Podcast brought to you by.
[00:21:33] Speaker A: Right. Right. If it's a win.
Like, you know, if you hit, don't forget. But yes, if it's a loss, we're not responsible.
[00:21:42] Speaker B: Oh, man, this is a fun one.
[00:21:45] Speaker A: It is. It is. It is. All right, man. So anything else, Brad, before? Because we. We're hitting right at that 20, that sweet 20 we like to hit.
[00:21:54] Speaker B: Yeah. Hey. Hey. Yeah, I do. Today is the last day you can sign pre register for New Jersey. That gets your. Your T shirt package. The T shirt package ends today, July 1st.
I think it's July 1st.
[00:22:08] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:22:09] Speaker B: Yeah, July 1st. So today is the absolute last day you can pre register. Pre register for Step Jam, New Jersey. You can sign up all the way to the day of. But today's the last day to get that T shirt. And every single meetup that we've ever been at, we've had at least 50 people at every single meetup say, hey, can I still get a T shirt, folks? You can't get one after the fact, so get it now. Get it right now.
[00:22:32] Speaker A: Yeah, no, no, that's. I'm glad you brought that up because. Yeah, July 19th, we're gonna be in the building. New Jersey, man. New Jersey is always a different vibe.
Make sure you guys, if you hadn't already made plans, make plans to come out to see the team. This is the last in person meeter of the year.
So if you're listening and you hadn't seen us all year and you miss us, make sure you make arrangements to come to that July step jam. And it's gonna be great. It's gonna be hot.
It's gonna be get you. Get your water guns, bring your Super Soakers. Yeah, man. No, but I'm excited.
So you guys remember to bring us some chicken and waffles while you're there. It's also my anniversary, so, you know, just any. Any gifts, cards, cards, you know, make them payable too.
[00:23:25] Speaker B: Spons.
[00:23:29] Speaker A: No, man, I'm really excited about it. And actually, my girls are coming too. We're. We're putting them on the airplane for the first time, so they don't know yet. They don't know what. So we're excited about that. But yeah, if you guys haven't registered today, when you listen to this podcast, make sure you go register so you can get that tea. Be ready for the race. But like you mentioned, you can register all the way up until.
And we would love to see you there for sure.
[00:23:54] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:23:55] Speaker A: All right. Brad, close this out, man.
[00:23:58] Speaker B: Whatever decisions you have made up until this point, never let them define you. Reach out for assistance. Reach out for guidance and navigate the turbulent waters. But head in the right direction while you do so.
[00:24:08] Speaker A: Yes, sir. Till next time.
